No doubt you've heard the chatter in the news touting the latest "Mommy Porn," and perhaps you too have caught the "50 Shades Buzz." You may have downloaded it on your e-reader to find out what the hype is all about, or you may have opted not to read it after hearing the vast spectrum of reviews, deciding that erotica just isn't your thing. "It" is the hottest new book to hit the shelves: Fifty Shades of Grey. Regardless of what you've heard up to now, I invite you to experience this book from a different angle: as a relationship user's guide. I promise, you will not be disappointed! The Fifty Shades Trilogy is a tale of two people falling in love; facing, then finding peace with the demons in their lives; experiencing unconditional love; and healing. Oh, and it’s also got some really hot sex. Consequently, it is the sex that has some quite fearful of cracking open the pages of this little gem. I deliberately use the word “fearful” because if you’ve read the negative reviews of this story, no doubt you’ve seen but a small glimpse of the components of this trilogy including BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, and masochism) and erotica. Make no mistake, most people love this book for the hot lovemaking, sure, but if you read this entire series and aren’t drawn to the love story that ensues between these two characters, you may have sadly missed out on some foundational principles we can all use in our own relationships. To clarify, yes, I am suggesting we use Fifty Shades of Grey as a guidebook of sorts, in our own relationships. This fictional work of art has a bounty of lessons we can all sink our teeth into (pun intended)! From spicing things up sexually to finding peace and contentment in an otherwise dull relationship, if you can make yourself get past the BDSM overtones and explicit sex scenes you may not be accustomed to reading, you’ll find some great tips to stimulate emotional connection in your relationship. And yes, even your sex life will be rejuvenated if you follow these simple tips I’ll be providing for you. I'll be the voice of insight in this handy little relationship guide you’re now reading, letting you know precisely what women are talking about, and what to do about it. Hopefully there will be no shades of gray, only concrete, black and white answers. Why does this series work? Why is it so hot? Why are women itching to have a little Christian Grey in their life? Why are people appalled that moms may actually ENJOY porn? And, most importantly, what we can learn from this book? I will seek to answer all of these questions throughout this guide. You'll want to keep up through the sex recommendations because part 7, the very last section of this guide, includes the most important recommendations for any relationship by far. Couples, consider this your sex and relationship user’s guide. This trilogy has enraptured one or both of you because you want more in your relationship. If you can't quite put your finger on what the "more" is, you'll get more insight reading the Shades of Grey books and in this handy little relationship user’s guide. My relationship guide is what women are talking about with their friends, and the sex and intimacy read in these pages can be mimicked, at least in part, in your own relationship. You want tangibles, I’m sure. Let’s talk specifics about the confidence and boldness of Christian Grey and what this means for your own relationship.