Comment 1 of 2, added on February 21st, 2005 at 3:15 AM.
What the poem means by her is only for a select few of us to understand
complely in its most exteme from and condition...
You cannot imagine the overwhelming and all consuming grief, sadness,
lonliness, anger, fear, depression and utter despondency that attaches it's
punishing emotional grip while it sentences you to live in the despair of
his/her absence and/or in the shadow of another man/woman's sexual
pleasures, until you have been personally through this living hell
What she says about herself...
Just by writing the poem confirms Emily having passed this way before, at
least once, or she could not have written this poem in the first place.
Understanding the poem means having lived the poem and only those who can
admit to the experience are the only ones that can understand the extreme
emotion in its meaning.
Because the answer is the poem itself and only those who have suffered the
experience can understand her meaning, it then leaves all of you who have
not been there, but think you get it or understand it, living a lie...you
do not get it at all.
You will never understand how this kind of boxed up emotion can hurt you
physically as well as mentally...this is beyond nausea or butterflies and
at the slightest reference weeks later can trigger these intellecturally
daunting and physically incapacitating waves of emotion that can drive you
to what you are completely convinced of as being a never ending state of
dispair and grief.
But that's the last and most important reason why, if you have not
experienced this, you cannot understand it.
The truth is that it all goes away over time...well 98% of it...you do
begin a new life and you are not destined for despair ad infintum...but you
will not believe this for one moment while you are suffering through
it...so once again...it's only the been there, done that crew who
understand the full 360 degrees of this life adventure.
from United States