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Analysis and comments on For My Lover, Returning To His Wife by Anne Sexton

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Comment 14 of 244, added on February 12th, 2012 at 4:43 AM.

JhYCeD See it for the first time!!...

oem software from Senegal
Comment 13 of 244, added on September 9th, 2010 at 1:56 AM.

hi,this poem is one of the most interesting poem i ever read.for me,it
gives an emphases on how the persona of the poem gave so much value to the
sacred sacrament that bind the two life as husband and wife.The persona
only apply the sayings...."love is selfless....it is setting someone free
for the sake of his\her happiness.

jason n.labastida from Philippines
Comment 12 of 244, added on June 9th, 2010 at 10:07 PM.

I saw on another site that this poem was about the author lacking
self-confidence and the husband being weak. I disagree. I believe this
poem has nothing to do with an inability to keep a lover or low
self-confidence. Nor do I believe that it shifts blame onto the husband or
implies a weakness on his part. Anne Sexton, in this poem, is showing the
different roles between the mistress and the wife. The wife is the person
to whom the husband goes home...the woman who takes care of him, who bore
his children and cares for them, who ultimately holds his heart. The
mistress is simply a fleeting luxury...someone who will not be there
forever. In this poem, she removes herself from the equation and gives the
husband permission to solely care for his wife. "I am a watercolor. I wash
off" doesn't refer to a lack of self-confidence, it refers to the temporary
nature of being a mistress.

Andria from United States
Comment 11 of 244, added on January 3rd, 2010 at 3:33 AM.
For my lover...

This is one of my favorite poems. It exhalts and vilifies the wife, while
through cynicism, it raises the mistress even higher. The mistress doesn't
refer to herself as a bitch or pawn. She thinks that she is a rare
(momentary) pleasure and that knowing her is truly a privilege. Would
anyone dare to demean Cezanne or Van Gogh?

vivaladani from United States
Comment 10 of 244, added on September 30th, 2009 at 12:35 PM.

i surmise that love comes in different forms....
one must let go of the ones they love the most..wash off the water
colors... for that kind of love can never exist....it is too real...

PT from United States
Comment 9 of 244, added on September 8th, 2009 at 10:17 AM.

I actually dont know who i feel sorrier for the writter of this amazing
piece or the wife , i just wonder " if something feels so right how can it
be wrong ?" why do people cross our paths if its not meant to be ?? when it
comes to this i have so many questions so many why`s ..... " oil on a
canvas "

Nikki from South Africa
Comment 8 of 244, added on April 16th, 2009 at 11:43 PM.

I am the wife. The mother of those three children. She "let him go". She
encouraged him to return to me. He did so, but in doing so he left part of
himself with her. She can never give me back that piece. I think of her as
oil on canvas. She will never wash off.

Patricia from Canada
Comment 7 of 244, added on February 10th, 2008 at 10:22 PM.

And the mods are the Gestapo.

Ambies from United States
Comment 6 of 244, added on June 17th, 2007 at 12:16 AM.

This was the first poem that got me interested in Anne Sexton & she is my
favorite poet by far. I love the line "for the pale flickering flare under
her ribs," it evokes such beautiful imagery.

Amanda from United States
Comment 5 of 244, added on October 1st, 2005 at 2:13 AM.

Don't you women wonder what that woman sleeps in or what parfume she wears?
This poem brings about all the emotions that the other woman feels and even
if it doesn't end should you give your lover back?

julia from United States

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