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by: Anthony E. Wolf
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Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 306.874
EAN: 9780374528539
ISBN: 0374528535
Label: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Manufacturer: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 240
Publication Date: August 01, 2002
Publisher: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
Sales Rank: 2063
Studio: Farrar, Straus and Giroux
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A brand new edition of the bestselling guide to raising teenagersWhen Anthony E. Wolf's witty and compassionate guide to raising adolescents was first published, its amusing title and fresh approach won it widespread admiration. Beleaguered parents breathed sighs of relief and gratitude. Now Dr. Wolf has revised and updated his bestseller to tackle the changes of the past decade. He points out that while the basic issues of adolescence and the relationships between parents and their children remain much the same, today's teenagers navigate a faster, less clearly anchored world. Wolf's revisions include a new chapter on the Internet, a significantly modified section on drugs and drinking, and an added piece on gay teenagers. Although the rocky and ever-changing terrain of contemporary adolescence may bewilder parents, Get Out of My Life gives them a great road map.
Amazon.com Review:
This is a survival guide for parents who find themselves marooned among volatile and incomprehensible aliens on Planet Teen. Area maps cover the obvious ground--there are chapters on school, sex, suicide, and so on--but it's the title of Chapter 2, 'What They Do and Why,' that best captures the book's spirit and technique. Anthony Wolf's modus operandi is not so much to make pronouncements about what parents should do, as to explain adolescent behavior in a way that's bound to leave parents with a changed view of the plausible options. Wolf is a clinical psychologist, and his writing is clear--even witty--and he doesn't resort to jargon. The expository text is punctuated with snatches of illustrative dialogue, which serve as concrete examples and help parents learn how to see, anticipate, and avoid 'bad strategies.' (One key mistake is getting dragged into no-win conflicts instead of having the wisdom to shut up at the moment when shutting up would be most effective--albeit the least satisfying--thing to do.) There are also some nicely tongue-in-cheek samples of 'ideal' communication--the stuff we imagine might get said if only we were better parents. After one such rosily cooperative and considerate interchange between a father and his adolescent son, Wolf offers the following two-edged comfort: 'The above conversation has never happened. Never. Not in the whole history of the world.' Message: Parenting adolescents is inherently difficult. Don't judge your efforts by otherworldly standards. --Richard Farr
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Rating:  - Fantastic for parents of teens (and anyone who has regular contact with them)!
As a clinical psychologist specializing in work with adolescents and families, I am always searching for information that will help parents better understand their children. This book has become an invaluable resource for allowing parents a window into the thoughts and emotions of their teens. Dr. Wolf does a wonderful job of explaining the gaps in communication and understanding that transpire on a daily (or more) basis without placing blame on either the parent or child. The reality is that ... Read More
Rating: - A must have book for parents of teenagers
A wonderful book, I've told my friends to buy this book even before they get to the teenage years, it is a complete handbook for parents of adolescents. Wolf lives and works in USA but he might have been writing about my teenagers in Dublin, Ireland. It seems they are the same, the world over. I loved his explanation of why they hang out in gangs outside shops and now that I know, I view them differently! I put some of his suggestions in to practice and saw results within days. It's true what others ... Read More
Rating:  - how to really talk to your teens
wolf uses many examples of actual conversations between parent and teen and then re-writes these conversations as to how they should have played out. very helpful and insightful. easy for me to apply to my own negative outcomes with my teens.
Rating: - Right on target!
I found this book to be of great value in improving communication with my 9th grade daughter. I wish I had read it sooner!
Rating:  - Where are the consequences?
After several recommendations by friends with teens, I've almost finished this book after a couple of days of reading. Helpful points include the reminders to not engage in pointless arguments and to state my position clearly and concisely and not to lecture. My problem with the book is the lack of any apparent consequences for bad behavior. Teen comes in an hour past curfew? Re-state the appropriate curfew time and move on. Teen lies about grades on homework? Overlook the lie and re-state expectations ... Read More
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